Xanet Pailet is a trailblazing s*x and intimacy coach, trauma practitioner, and bestselling author who turned personal heartbreak into global impact. After ending her 26-year s*xless marriage, Xanet embarked on a decade-long journey of self-discovery and s*xual healing that transformed her life and business. Today, she runs a thriving six-figure practice helping couples reignite intimacy and emotional safety through her acclaimed Passionate Intimacy Retreats. A former healthcare lawyer, Xanet integrates trauma-informed tools, neuroscience, and compassionate communication to guide clients from disconnection to deep, lasting passion. Her groundbreaking book Living an Orgasmic Life has inspired thousands, and her upcoming release The S*x and Intimacy Repair Kit (March 2026) expands her message of pleasure, power, and authentic connection.

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What if the biggest business breakthrough of your life came from the most painful part of your marriage?

In this powerful episode of Talking with the Experts, Rose Davidson sits down with Xanet Pailet, a former lawyer turned s*x and intimacy coach, to uncover the extraordinary lessons she learned from her 26-year s*xless marriage—and how those lessons became the foundation of her six-figure business.

Xanet’s story is one of courage, reinvention, and deep emotional healing. After leaving a marriage marked by silence and disconnection, she rebuilt her confidence and created a thriving coaching practice helping couples rekindle intimacy, safety, and passion. Here, she reveals how the same principles that heal relationships—trust, communication, vulnerability, and presence—also fuel business success.

Listeners will discover how nurturing a business like a relationship can unlock creativity and sustainable growth, how speaking your truth transforms leadership, and why embracing pleasure is a powerful act of self-liberation.

Tune in to learn how embracing your desires and feminine energy can change the way you love, lead, and live.

💡 Three Key Takeaways

1. Your business, like your relationship, must be nurtured and nourished to thrive—connection always precedes results.
2. You are responsible for voicing and meeting your desires; clarity and communication create freedom.
3. Embracing feminine energy allows creativity and growth to flow—surrender brings expansion.

• Xanet Pailet is introduced as a former healthcare lawyer turned s*x and intimacy coach, trauma practitioner, and best-selling author who left a 26-year s*xless marriage and built a six-figure coaching business over 15 years.
• Women’s power and creativity originates from the womb space, and when connected to this area, it lowers cortisol levels, increases endorphins, and helps attract desired outcomes in business.
• Goal-oriented focus in both intimate life and business can cause people to miss important nuances and skip crucial steps in the nurturing process.
• Business relationships require a slower nurturing pace similar to s*xual relationships, including email sequences, funnels, and quizzes that allow potential clients to get to know the service provider before making purchases.
• Generosity with time and content in business nurturing sequences mirrors the importance of being generous with exploration and time in intimate relationships.
• Many women struggle to ask for what they want in both business and intimate settings due to underlying self-worth wounds from socialization and patriarchal systems.
• Stories about s*x and money learned during childhood are often similar and interconnected, with both involving messages about playing small and not asking for too much.
• Connecting with feminine energy starts with reconnecting to the body through practices like wearing items that feel s*xy, creating sensual atmospheres with baths and candles, and engaging all five senses.
• Breath work, meditation, and orgasms are essential components for connecting with s*xual centers, s*xual energy, and feminine power.
• Powerful women are perceived as a threat to patriarchal systems, which explains ongoing resistance to gender equality despite women’s proven capabilities.
• Xanet’s new book “The S*x and Intimacy Repair Kit” is designed for couples to learn emotional reconnection, repair past conflicts, and restore s*xual connection.
• A free gift of seven three-minute videos with specific tips for improving love life is available at howtoimprovemylovelife.com.